Includes Free inner child meditation
Inner child healing is a phrase that many have heard, but few fully understand. A powerful natural healing modality that dynamically affects change within a person’s life positively.
In this blog we will look at what inner child healing is, why it’s so effective and how to start using it within your own life, to further develop and grow.
Inner child work liberated me in a way I couldn’t have imagined, it had such a positive impact on how I now live my life and helped me become an empowered woman in my own right. I have found that since using it within my coaching, clients experience similar shifts, affording them the freedom they never conceived possible.
Women globally have the right to feel liberated, to feel free to be their true selves, to become the goddess of their life. It is for this reason; I offer it as a healing modality within my clinic.
I will also be including a link to a guided meditation at the end of this piece, which will enable you to start building a positive relationship with your inner child.
What is inner child Healing?
Inner child healing also known as inner child work and regression therapy (although that has slight differences) is what’s known within the psychological field as experimental psychology. It builds upon the premise of acknowledging and addressing the unmet needs of childhood. In layman’s terms, you become the parent to your child-self and provide what you perceived you lacked in childhood.
Why is it so effective?
Every human develops their personality, beliefs, values from childhood experiences. We learn by mimicking first our parents or guardians, then extended family, and as we grow friends, teachers, mentors, etc. John Bradshaw one of the key persons to popularize the concept of the inner child cites research that shows 96% of all families have a degree of dysfunctionality within its dynamics.
If as children we learn from dysfunction, it is only logical that we then become dysfunctional within different aspects of our perception. To give an example, imagine as a child you see an orange but you are told it’s an apple, you then believe it’s an apple and unless you have an experience that causes you to question the validity of your apple, you continue to believe it’s an apple well into adulthood.
Now imagine that you are from a single-parent family, your dad left when you were a baby, his leaving was never discussed, and you have no contact. Your mum works hard to provide for you but you’re a child and have no concept of the adult world and its responsibilities. All you know is that she is rarely home, you feel lonely, you start to develop a belief that mum prefers work than spending time with you. Within your extended family, you overhear an adult saying, “well the problem was he never wanted kids”. Your child self now believes that mum would rather work than be with you, and dad left because of you! Setting possible foundational beliefs of not being wanted, unlovable, unworthy, disliked, and or abandonment issues.
That is a heavily dysfunctional example but even within what we consider a traditional upbringing we see a degree of dysfunction and with that develop miss conceived perceptions of self. Here is a personal example of what I mean…
I grow up with both parents, happily married and family orientated. I was the last of four children and my parents based their life around our needs. In their desire to ensure we all felt that everything was equal between us children, we were taught to take turns. “Nothing wrong in that” I hear you thinking. But here is the twist, because I was the youngest, I learned to always be last, I built a belief that I should always be last, including as I grow into adulthood, my needs, my wants, my desires. My parents did nothing wrong… Their intentions were good, but the dysfunction lay within the action they took to implement those intentions. I grow up with a belief that my needs were unimportant, that I was unimportant, everyone else first!
Healing the inner child affords us the advantage of discovering and uncovering such beliefs at a foundational level and then re-parenting ourselves so that we can reprogram our inner child’s beliefs. The effect of this results in self-actualization. Affording us as adults, to make better choices based on what we want rather than what we believe we are allowed.
How to start working with the inner child?
First befriend them, gain their trust. Depending on the severity of dysfunction within your family dynamics, will determine the amount of time this will take. There are four key components to this first stage of the process.
- Don’t rush – take as make time as the child self needs to become comfortable with you
- Don’t make promises you cannot keep – as strange as this may sound, even though this is a visualization exercise, energetically it is real! If your inner child is holding the energy of being ignored, let down, unwanted, not being good enough, then a broken promise from you only adds to that belief.
- Don’t jump in with all the answers – many of our adult self-negative beliefs stem from our inner child feeling disempowered. When you start to develop the relationship, be the adult that LISTENS, that takes their concerns, hurts, pains seriously. Remember your dealing with a child whose mind is not yet fully developed. Honestly some of the situations they hold and build destructive beliefs or values with can be outrageously funny, some can also bring back memories you would rather leave forgotten. But if you want to move forward as an adult, then you need to assist your inner child to move past them, in a positive and empowering way.
- Have fun – No child likes a teacher that makes them sit at their desk and deal with the hard lessons from the minute they walk in. No, good teachers understand that children learn with greater efficiency when they are not even aware, they are learning, and they do this through play. When you start visiting your inner child, don’t assume you know everything about them, get to know them by asking them about themselves, what they like to play, what dreams they have, who is their best friend?
Now that’s clear let’s go and make friends with the inner child and start the journey of removing those energetic shackles and busting through those blocks.
If you are looking for support and guidance on your self-healing, personal and or, spiritual development journey then check out my Athena Academy.
I empower women to become their goddess self. Igniting the fire of your internal essence, whilst building in confidence, to step into your dreams.